Sometimes a lot goes on in our lives that makes it hard to stay positive. We don’t always know how to stay positive when we’re down in the dumps and feeling super negative about everything. We might feel like the whole world is against us at times, but that’s not the best way to think.
I’ve been dealing with a lot health-wise and school-wise, and it’s been hard. When something’s always going wrong, it can be discouraging and difficult to deal with. Staying positive in the midst of the storm is all you can do, because otherwise, you’ll never change your situation.
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Even though I’m struggling, I tell myself I’ll get through it and achieve my goals. It’s my positiveness that keeps me going, because if I didn’t know how to believe in myself, I’d be withering away and even more stressed out. So if you have a hard time staying positive when things go wrong, you’re gonna want to stick around! Here are some of the things I do to keep my head up.
Use positive words
The way you speak is a projection of your own thoughts and feelings. I’ve been reading Successful Women Speak Differently by Valorie Burton and it’s been opening my eyes to all the important little things. Even simple little things like inflection can change the way you come across to other people.
I tell myself that “I can do it” and “I will do it,” instead of “I guess I can” and “I have to do it.” Sometimes I still slip up and say something negative, but it’s a habit that has to be broken. Being positive is a habit that has to be built. So stop saying negative things, even to yourself, and start speaking positively!
Picture yourself in a better situation. Whether it’s about your goals, your health, or your living situation, think about where you’d like to be. Visualize what it would feel like to be in that position instead.
For the past two and a half weeks, I’ve watched roller skating videos, being inspired by the strong women of the Moxi Skate Team, and imagining myself doing what they do. Every time I go out, I imagine myself skating on the sidewalk, and think about if I’d be able to glide, or if I’d have to be careful.
I don’t have my skates yet, and I can’t get them until I reach a certain goal of mine (which I might tell you guys about later). Have I thought about if I’ll give up on skating if I have a hard time? Of course. But I’m determined, and because I’ve visualized it so much, I’m positive I’ll be a great skater.
Imagine yourself with the beach bod you’ve been wanting, or the house on the hill, or the promotion at work. Keep imagining it, every day, as much as you can. You might even start to feel like you already have it, which will give you an incredible confidence boost. Then, you’re much more likely to get it!
Everyone should have a few positive affirmations they say to themselves every morning. This isn’t something I’ve started doing yet, but I do have other affirmations I say whenever I need to. They allow me to take care of myself by remembering I need a break every once in a while, and that I shouldn’t be so hard on myself.
Successful people say or read their positive affirmations as part of their morning routine. It’s a great way to remind yourself of your wants and goals, and start your day in a positive way. When you’re ready to try this, you can add it to your own morning routine and reap the results over time.
I don’t get enough exercise, so when I have the time and energy, I do some yoga. It’s good for me, physically and mentally. I feel better after I do it, and it boosts my self-esteem because I know I’m doing something good about my body.
Yoga is a form of meditation, and a way to practice mindfulness – being present in the moment. It’s a great way to get your blood flowing and release some stress. So if you ever feel tense or need some exercise, yoga’s the way to go.
Do something you enjoy
You need to take a break and slow down every once in a while! Stop stressing for at least 30 minutes to an hour and do something you like. Do something that relaxes you, or something fun. Take a bubble bath or hang out with a loved one.
Our brains and bodies can only handle so much stress. Lower those cortisol levels a bit and give your brain some rest and pleasure. Your brain will thank you – trust me on that.
Talk to a therapist
Talking about your problems and having someone remind you that they’re solvable, or that you’re blowing them out of proportion, will certainly help you stay sane, to say the very least. They can also tell you what to say to yourself when you’re worried.
When I’m feeling anxious, I tell myself “I’m gonna be okay” and “It will go away,” while I start my deep breathing. I use those positive messages to calm myself down. My therapist helped me come up with those messages, and I wrote them down in my bullet journal.
Even talking to someone once a month can help you feel so much better and learn a lot about yourself and others around you. Mental health is just as important as physical health, so don’t be afraid to reach out to people.
Keep a gratitude journal
You’re supposed to do it every day, but I forget. I only do it, on average, once every two weeks. I’ll be better at it someday. You can’t start too many habits at once.
Keeping a gratitude journal helps you stay grounded, look at the little things, and be more positive. Even if you’ve had a terrible day, you can still be grateful for the pretty flowers you saw on the way home. I’m sure a lot of you are better at it than I am.
Practicing gratitude allows you to get out of your own head and be more aware of what’s around you. We can all be a little more mindful in our daily lives.
How to stay positive in other ways
These definitely aren’t the only ways to stay positive. These are just the main things I do. I’d love to hear what you guys do to keep your heads up when life gets rough! Leave a comment below to share your own methods, and I can add them to this post (with credit to you, of course)!